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Tips on How to Make Your Marriage Work

In today’s society marriage is no longer considered as sacred as it used to be by previous generations. Statistics show that almost 50% of all marriages (in the U.S.) are doomed to fail & this trend is on the rise in India too, especially in the urban areas. The reasons for separation & divorce are many, ranging from incompatibility, financial problems, interfering in-laws, extramarital affairs, impotence, abusive spouse etc.

Sometimes these reasons are valid & there is no way of saving a marriage & while it is important to get out of an abusive relationship, you have to realize that in most cases, if the couple is willing to work & make a few compromises, they can go a long way in not just saving their marriage but also lead them to live a much happier life in each other’s company. Here are a few tips on how to that.

1. Look at your relationship with a positive perspective. A relationship will have both positive & negative parts, it is essential to focus on the positive points & not dwell too much on the negative aspects.

2. Nobody’s perfect, so look at your partner’s imperfections with benevolence. If your wife is snapping you at night, understand that she may have had a tough day at work or taking care of the household chores etc, & is not trying to insult you. Be patient & don’t jump to conclusions.

3. Your parents will always want what is best for you, but sometimes they may tread on territory which belongs to your spouse & cause them to get upset. You need to draw the line with your parents when it comes to taking decisions that affect you & your partner. You need to show your spouse that he/she is your priority & their input is the most important when it comes to taking any major decision in your life.

4. A lot of married couples have intimacy issues, & these if not rectified in time may lead to the marriage breaking up. If you or your partner suffer from any type of sexual dysfunction then it’s important to identify the problem & get a qualified professional to help you resolve it.

5. Make time for each other; the breakneck speed of today’s lifestyle leaves couples with almost no quality time to spend with each other. Make sure that you take time out of your busy schedule of work or the day to day activities & plan some alone time with each other, taking small weekend vacations is a great way to do this & remember to leave your work behind.

Couples who have a successful marriage have done so by having love, respect & understanding for each other. Communication is very important; they know that it takes a lot of hard work to make their relationship work. It is important that both partners are willing to do this as marriage is a two way street. If both the partners put each other before self, there is no reason why they cannot have a happy & lifelong relationship with their spouse, even in today’s demanding day & age.

Busted! The Myth about Men & How Much They Think About Sex

So who would have thought that Men don’t always have sex on their minds? The notion that men only have sex on their minds just got busted according to a new study done by psychologists at Ohio State University in the U.S.

The researchers found that contrary to the long held beliefs like the urban legend that men think about sex every seven seconds, they found that men think about things like food & sleep more than they do about sex.

Though the researchers only used college students for their study & that too in small numbers (163 women & 120 men), the findings give an interesting insight into the thinking behaviors & patterns of both the sexes.

They found that; that on average, men thought about sex around once per waking hour & the women once per every two waking hours. Men also thought as much about food, sleep & other health related things.

Studies like these are bound to break the general stereotypes which we generally associate with gender & their sexual thinking & behavior.

Smoking Marijuana May Cause Impotence

It is the sad reality of our times that the use of recreational or the so called soft drugs is on the rise in India. Marijuana is one of the most common, popular & unfortunately easily accessible of these drugs, now beside the known side effects associated with marijuana like disruption of linear memory. Paranoia, anxiety, loss of motor control etc, recent research has shown that long term & excessive use of marijuana may lead to erectile dysfunction or impotence in men.

The disquisition conducted by a team from the University of Ottawa & Queen’s University in Canada has found that long term users of cannabis doubled their chances of suffering from erectile dysfunction than non users.

There is a need for further clinical studies to substantiate this finding but if you smoke marijuana or are thinking of experimenting with the drug, do you really think it is worth the risk of losing your erection & leading an unhappy sex life?

Smoking Can Kill Your Love Life

The damage which smoking can cause to your health is well documented & besides the graphic warnings about lung cancer & other pulmonary & heart problems that it can cause, there is another not so well known problem that smoking cigarettes can create, & that is to trigger erectile dysfunction.

More & more studies are showing that men who smoke have a much higher risk of having sexual problems than those who don’t. The trouble has been that young men who smoke think that they are not going to face this problem as they feel they are doing alright when it comes to performing in bed. What they don’t appreciate is that erectile dysfunction will manifest itself more & more as they age & keep smoking.

The good news is that if they quit smoking early, it will not only improve their odds of living longer but also improve their sex life as their level of arousal & erection will go up. & remember that even if you are not suffering from erectile dysfunction yet, if you quit smoking you will lower your chances of suffering from this problem later on in life as long time smokers are 2 times more likely to suffer from impotence than non smokers.

Hopefully this piece of information will stimulate smokers to quit & lead a healthier life in general & improve their sex life as well because smoker’s breath is the least of their concerns when it comes to intimacy.